Help me pelase? ami selfish?

Yes. You are selfish. And petty and mean and cruel. And immature. You started out knowing he was divorced with 2 kids. Ask him why he doesn't visit them? Read the divorce papers and find out what the Court's disposition was. He is their father and they have done nothing wrong. His story that you are telling doesn't make a lot of sense. Maybe you want to win something not worth winning. Get counseling together or by yourself. His wife left him and the country so there be another side to this story. What you describe doesn't sound like a loving relationship. Find out what you need to know and make a choice. GL